1.
Can you and your spouse tell each other honestly what you really want instead of using manipulation or games?
2.
If your spouse should die tomorrow, would you be very happy you had a chance to meet him/her and to marry him/her?
3.
Would your spouse say you enjoy being with him/her and sharing many of life’s experiences with him/her?
4.
Can you accept your spouse as she/he is instead of having several plans to redo him/her?
5.
Does your spouse feel she’s more important than anyone or anything else in your life?
6.
Would your spouse say you are open to his/her corrections?
7.
Can your spouse get angry at you with your thinking less of him/her?
8.
Do you value the same things in your spouse that you value in yourself?
9.
Do you enjoy introducing your spouse to your friends or family?
10.
Do you trust your spouse to solve his/her own problems?
11.
Do you admit to your spouse you have problems and need his/her comfort?
12.
Would your spouse say you are a good listener?
13.
Do you believe that you could live a full and happy life without your spouse?
14.
Do you know what your spouse needs when he’s/she’s under stress or when he’s/she’s discouraged?
15.
Do you believe you know at least five of your spouse’s major needs and how to meet those needs in a skillful way?
16.
Are you able to share with your spouse your moments of weakness, failure, disappointment?
17.
Would your spouse say you create interest in her/him when you share things you consider important?
18.
Are you able to learn from your spouse and value what she/he says?
19.
Would your spouse say you are a good example of what you would like him/her to be?
20.
Do you make your spouse feel good about himself/herself?
21.
When you offend your spouse, do you usually admit you were wrong and seek his/her forgiveness?
22.
Would your spouse say you are a protector, that you know what his/her limitations are as a man/woman?
23.
Do your actions show you really care for your spouse?
24.
Do you encourage your spouse to develop his/her full potential?
25.
Does your face spontaneously break into a smile when you see your spouse?
26.
Would your spouse say you praise him/her at least once a day?
